Mom is dying, 4th post

Today she was a little weaker, her friend texted that she wasn't able to push herself up this morning. It takes two people to get her to bathroom, and now she can't stand to wash her face or do anything with her teeth, so she's just rinsing with Listerine, and then is brought a wet washcloth for her face once she's in her chair. She's been moving back and forth between her bed & the chair in the living room, she asked me if she could just stay in the chair, because in the living room she has the TV and she likes the Muzak channels. Initially I said 'sure', but then realized that she wouldn't be moving at all, and the bed has one of those variable pressure mattresses, which keeps people from developing bedsores. If she's only in the chair, not moving, she's going to get bed sores, and they can be very nasty. Long story short the best answer is to move the bed into the living room, but by the time it was realized there was only one person still there. So, that happens tomorrow.

Beth & Mark arrived, and she was very happy to see them. She was very anxious about me, which is not usual for her, and she feels better that they are with me to take care of me. She told them she wanted to sleep after less than 10 mins. Beth thought she looked a long way from dying, but Mom was much worse after their visit, same thing yesterday. I'm hoping she'll relax enough now that she could die peacefully. 

It's almost midnight, we've been chatting away. Spice is adjusting to having one of his scratching pads, a bed and his food moved. I couldn't move his litter box in addition, there's only so much change a kitty can handle at once. Beth had particularly bad experiences with Chester, Mark had a few encounters. They both raved about what an improvement Spice is regarding visitors. I'm not taking him to Mom's again, he absolutely hated the car rides, plus he was never going to settle in her lap. 

I'm still not crying......